Did you ever see something beautiful begin to die and then it took on a drastic change right before your eyes?  Imagine looking at a beautiful flower in the garden and a few hours later the sun and length of days caused the flower to wither first and then die.   You wonder how in the world something so pretty can look so ugly and the transition be so immediate.

That is the way anger manifest.  You can be engaged in a beautiful conversation with someone and all of a sudden you could disagree and the beauty takes on another form.  Out of someones mouth come these ugly words causing a death in the relationship or a death in the beautiful emotions in the room.

The picture above is a good representation of beauty and ugly on the same vine.  The zucchini plant has grown and matured.  It has produced beautiful flowers in the beginning and those flowers produce lovely fruit, however without proper fertilization and the necessary requirement needed to keep the plant at its best, it begins to wither and die.  It is no longer producing good healthy produce.  How many times have we been in the midst of the angry bug?  That bug that comes along and kills what beautiful thing we  produced.  What is the solution for this menace that seems to take over our lives unexpectedly?  My solution is focusing on the scripture in James chapter 3. It talks about how a fountain cannot send forth bitter and sweet water at the same time, nor can it give salt and fresh water simultaneously. This is not the way it should be. Words that bite are no benefit to the giver nor receiver.  We should not say harsh and angry words to one another.  Angry words that come out of our mouths when we also say lovingly words to one another is not a way we reinforce our love to one another.  Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always preserves. 1Corinthians 13: 4-7

Loving one another and being at peace, is a work in progress for me. There are several solutions available to help with anger.  You can be slow to speak and think about what you are saying before you respond. You could practice being a good listener and see just what the person speaking is portraying before you respond.  Sometimes there is an underlying message or concept being portrayed and we are so quick to respond, we miss the point.  Realize what someone is saying is important to them and perhaps they are not quite as adept in communicating as you.  Sometimes making a point just isn’t worth the argument.  So don’t 🙂

I use the ASK me© concept in my personal life and my coaching session.  One of the concepts for ASK me© is Avoid, Slow Down and be Kind.  You can avoid some things by not engaging, taking the conversation to a lower decibel (lower your voice) and remember the goal of kindness over all else.

Join me in this and let’s make 2020 our year on clarity of purpose and clear strategic vision as we move forward and practice sharing Godly love.

Happy Launching! 🙂

Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. _ Mark Twain